You probably have to learn how to be friends with people from the opposite sex before you learn how to be attractive to them. If you don't see them as normal people, you won't act normally around them, and you just might be creepy. It's important to not be creepy. People have natural instincts to protect themselves from harm, and romantic interactions are only possible when someone is comfortable enough to be vulnerable around you.
Important note: being pushy and forceful and not being able to sense how the other person feels - is extremely unattractive. You have to learn social norms and understand people in order to make someone feel comfortable and interested in you. You are desirable when someone is able to learn what is great about you, and then they have the opportunity to win you over! You can make someone like you simply by showing them your best self, and creating the opportunity for that person to talk to you. Don't repel them by being pushy, attract and entice them by being awesome.
I don't believe spending all of your time TRYING to date and meet people works very well, but obviously you won't meet anyone if you hide inside your house. Balance is always healthy.